Reverant Theodore Hesburgh said that “The best thing a father can do is love their mother”. Now, I wrote this out knowing it may rub some people the wrong way and if it does, I don’t blame you. There has been a lot of positive and negative sentiment over this quote. Some say that they should love their children or help the mother, etc etc and the list goes on. However, others think that it’s a perfect summation of actions speak louder than words and that seeing a father care and love their children’s mother, they are teaching their kids kindness, love, compassion, support etc. I’m not one to stir but heading into having Parker there were so many “negative” articles like this one or this one that kind of freaked me out. My husband and I were such a close couple that shared everything and genuinely LOVE spending a lot of time together. It started did dawn on me - was this now all going to change?
Again, this is was one of the reasons why I launched this blog, to bring more of the positive sides of things. After Parker, I still didn’t seem to relate to these articles; Vince and I were just on the same rhythm. He was super helpful, take charge, hands on, patient… pretty much all the things I could ever have asked for. To be honest, if anything, I’ve never been more in love with him since Parker was born. I fell harder, further and faster than ever before. Seeing dads with their babies is just such a heart melter and seeing them interact will guarantee a smile on my face, every time. Also, when Parker poos or pees on him, that’s also a guarantee laugh followed by sitting back and watching the panic set in.
In this spirit, I interviewed a few of my dad friends to get their sides of things, the results were nothing short of AMAZING!
1. Describe in one word how you felt when your little one was born?
CAPTIVATED, ELATED, LOVE, RELIEVED AND GRATITUDE
2. What are the top 3 things you can do to help your wife in the first week post delivery?
FEED HER, WATER WATER WATER - EVERYWHERE, EMOTIONAL SUPPORT, SHIELD HER FROM UNNECESSARY STRESS, BE COMPLETELY SELFLESS AND COOK
3. What's the funniest thing that has ever happened to you with the little one? Or funniest thing they've ever said to you?
FIRST TIME FLYING SOLO – MULTIPLE POO EXPLOSIONS IN THE BATH AND OUT OF THE BATH, THEN BACK IN THE BATH. WHEN THE LITTLES ONES MIMIC YOU AND WHEN THEIR FARTS WAKE THEM UP
4. Finish this sentence - my wife is......
STRONGER THAN I EVER KNEW, THE ROCK OF OUR FAMILY, A BETTER PERSON AND PATIENT
5. Being a dad has.....
CHANGED MY OUTLOOK ON LIFE, GIVEN ME NEW PERSPECTIVE, INSPIRED ME, MADE ME A BETTER PERSON AND BEEN THE MOST REWARDED THING IN MY LIFE
Much love to all the dads out there.